Growing Older.
Have you ever woken up from a deep sleep, and felt lost? You don't know where you are or even who you are. You have no perception of time, or being. You don't know your name. You don't know the world. I know you know that feeling. However, this only lasts a split second before you gain memory, before you understand. You wiggle your toes and stretch your arms and you spring back into life. You look at your phone and you have eight new snapchat notifications, 5 missed calls from your best friend followed by texts in all caps saying “WHERE ARE YOU??” You lazily put back on our slippers and run to class because you are late, and a little dizzy. You wake up and suddenly you have to go and manage and entire life, all by yourself. You are given this body, and somehow you must feed it, take care of it, and most importantly, keep it alive. It is way more complicated and fragile. Our bodies and lives are all we are to know, and keeping it alive is our purpose. Not only that, this world we live guilts us into having norms. We have to provide for ourselves by obtaining a job, a social status, and carrying an acceptable persona. It's pretty easy when you imprint your mom and dads every move, but one day, you wake up from this deep sleep, and there you are- alone. Completely alone. Life gives you challenges. It gives you paths to choose. One path may gain your social status, while decreasing your financial, or maybe another path increases your education, but maybe not your social status. But what happens when you do not know what to do? This dizziness follows you. Not only do you feel dizzy, but this shocking, deep, deafening, numbing feeling begins to take over. It is indescribable, a feeling you can not know until you feel it. I have felt it for the first time this year. Society makes the age of 18 the age of aloneness. The simple societal rule allows an adolescent like you and like me to make imperative decisions. You can pick up bad habits, habits that can slowly destroy you. One little mistake like holding a Bud Light-can can cause you to be ripped away from everything you have ever known. Being 18 is an unfair, mentally and physically destroying time in our lives. Everything that we have been told by our moms and dads and our teachers and role models is right there in front of you, waiting and taunting you to fuck it all up.
I have been told to go into high school with the mindset of all A’s. I was told to take the hardest classes possible, take AP classes, dual enroll, do not party, play sports, join clubs not because I like them, but to enhance my resume. I was told to play an instrument to make myself well rounded, I was told to never party, to study and spend time with family. I was told that high school would go quick, to make it worth it. I was told to stay away from boys, I was told to always do studious thing. But there I was, at a party whilst I had homework to be done. There I was doing the opposite. There I was, a young innocent girl with a beautiful guy in front of me. A big tall cup of jungle juice in front of me, there I was with a classmate telling me I have to try it-a smoking paper of weed. There I was- everything I was told never to do, waiting for me taunting me to do it. I think growing older to me was defined as finally facing my fears. I was kind of put to a test. At some point you have to realize what is important to you, not what is important for everyone else. So far, what has been important for me is the find balance. For me, I think going off to college by myself, without anyone to tell me no, without guilt, without authority, has taught me this important quality. Its something so hard to get a grip on, something that feels so intangible, something so elusive. But I think that that's the point. It’s not meant to be easy. It is meant to make us struggle, it is meant to push us as a person, to make us learn right from wrong, to finally understand and make aware of what is important to ourselves, not anyone else. It may take years of the dizziness to dissipate, but I guess it’s a part of growing older.
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